When A Flower Does Not Bloom

This has been such a difficult post to write. It is very bitter sweet. For the last four years, Neiva has been in primary school. A wonderful one. One of the best. I have never seen a school so committed to the well being of its children. A school that has given Neiva all the support they could possibly give. A school that gave us the kindest, most patient and loving support teacher that has been with her since her nursery days and held her hand all the way through to today.

Why then, have we made the decision to take her away from all this?

The best way I can explain why is with an illustration. I’d love to take credit for it as it perfectly describes a child with sensory overload. I heard this in a Facebook group for home educators and it really resonated with me. So here is is.

Imagine you are terrified of spiders. A very real phobia. The very thought of one sends you into a panic. Even the mere mention sends your heart rate rising. You have butterflies in your stomach, you start to tremble. Panic starts to creep in. All your senses are now heightened. You are told to go into a room and sit at a desk. You are going to learn something new. Its going to be fun. You are going to be taught by the best teacher in the world.

Now imagine, you open the door and that room is filled with spiders.

That is how Neiva feels in a general classroom. Even with the best will in the world, she will struggle to cope in this environment. A quote you will have probably seen going around social media is “when a flower does not bloom, you fix the environment it grows in, not the flower” This, is us.

Wherever possible, the school made provision for Neiva to learn outside in a more natural environment. Anyone who knows Neiva knows she is calmed, soothed and comforted when immersed in nature. To build on this, we have made the decision to home educate Neiva on a nature curriculum starting March 2019.

The last few weeks Paul and I have been planning. To capitalise on outdoor learning, we have converted our summer house in the bottom of the garden to a school room. It’s a wonderful space that we can dip in and out of the garden throughout our learning time, as a lot of our lessons will be garden based. The school room also gives a designated learning area and a good structure for Neiva who thrives on routine. She will have a clear vision on when her learning time starts and ends. It will also save my sanity, meaning my house will stay tidy. We are in the processing of creating a mud kitchen and I will be writing a whole post on it when its finally finished.

The curriculum we will be following is Exploring Nature With Children. This is designed to be a step by step guide to an entire year of nature learning. To support Neiva’s academic learning we have subscribed to Twinkl, a primary resource that is used in most UK schools. Every fortnight she will be attending Forest School, and of course we have our much lovedĀ National Trust Membership.

Saying goodbye to the teaching staff and her best school friend, a lovely boy who has been her friend since they started nursery together, was so difficult. We are going to make an effort to keep in touch. At the same time, we are excited for our new learning adventure to begin. I will be using this space to document our journey, so I hope you will follow along with us. You can stay up to date by subscribing below and of course following us on Instagram.

If you have any questions, just leave me a comment below.



  1. February 19, 2019 / 2:13 pm

    Love your new logo! Exciting hope it goes well!

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